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toy cleanliness?

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The question is what material it is made out of. Can you tell us the specific toy you want to re-use. If it is stainless steel, glass, or silicone, then it can be easily boiled, thrown in the dishwasher, or realistically even hand washed and it is very safe If you have a porous material: Like TPE, rubber, jelly, or many many other products, it is impossible to get into every microscopic nook and cranny, and it is generally not recommended.

As long as it is a truly body safe toy it can be cleaned sufficiently it can be dual use. Silicone, glass, and metal can all be boiled or sprayed with 70% isopropyl alcohol.

Yes it will be but you definitely want to have a full cleanser that is safe for it and safe for your skin, with toys of that tight a lot of people wrap them in condoms for easy cleaning

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question, do plushie fuck stuffed animals count as sex toys?

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11hrhc2

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They do

Tell me more about the womanizer vibrator. I think I might want to get my wife one. Can it make a woman squirt?

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11gol82

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Most squirting is triggered by internal pressure, not external stimulation, so squirting with Womanizers or other similar toys is uncommon (unless they're paired with some kind of internal pressure, like a curved dildo or fingers against the "G-spot" or the front wall of the vagina in general). Some people squirt just from clit stimulation alone, but it's much less common.

Not unless she can do so without manual stimulation. It is a purely clitorial stimulation toy... When used as intended. Often gets rave reviews.

I have a few of these. The womaniser is ok, haven't tried it in the shower, but imagine it would be fine. I have squirted many times using it (sounds incredible) but as someone else has already mentioned, squirting is usually achieved by teasing the right internal zone simultaneously. Sometimes I let someone else take care of that whilst I control the womaniser, as it relies on pressure variation, angle and positioning. As a result I've found it can be a bit of a hit/miss couples toy. Keep communicating, learn her favourite moves, and massage the space behind the clit (internally). This one is my fave so far: Womanizer X Lovehoney Pro40 Rechargeable Clitoral Stimulator

My wife hates it. Got her one a couple years back and we used it 2-3 times. It turns her completely off. No idea why, she says it tickles too much. Maybe we're not using it right.

Hiii So I have the womanizer premium and I cannot recommend this enough! It's a little more pricey than a starlet or liberty but it's so worth it. It is my go to toy every single time. And yes. I've had the most incredible orgasms with this. 😚

How important is lube safety?

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It can make sex safer. Lube reduces friction, so lessens your risk of injury during sex. And if you're using condoms, lube also makes it less likely that it'll break or fall off, therefore increasing your protection against STIs including HIV.

I'd get good lube like sliquid or xlube and if I'm not irritated by it, i keep using it. There's a point where you're just stressing over nothing, when you could be having orgasms

>(For anal masturbation with a silicone dildo) I've used pink baby oil for this purpose for years. Probably went though like 100+ bottles. Completely fine. I've used X-Lube as well. With that, you have to pay attention in how you make and mix it with what concentration. There is debate on this. You can make small batches and vary the concentration. I suppose go with the lowest concentration that you can get away with, or just what feels right and best. Lube the toy nicely and inject some lube up there before taking big toys. You'll be fine.

I haven't given it much thought. Over the years, I've used Shibari, Gun Oil, Sliquid, Astroglide, whatever Kiiroo is providing, and, most recently, J-Lube. I've put them on myself, in myself, and ditto to others. Neither myself nor my partners have ever had an issue with any of them. I know some people have sensitivities to the ingredients you mentioned. I think the way you'll find your perfect lube is to try everything and see what works for you. Unless you're shopping for a lube with zero reputation or buying in vast quantities, I'd just recommend reading reviews at big retailers like Shevibe, Amazon, Target, Walmart, etc. Here's a article (sponsored) refuting the harmful effects of medical-grade glycerin in quality water-based lube: [https://exsens-usa.com/blogs/your-body-your-pleasure/lube-lessons-the-truth-about-glycerin](https://exsens-usa.com/blogs/your-body-your-pleasure/lube-lessons-the-truth-about-glycerin) Here's an article refuting over-the-top threat assessment PG commonly receives: [https://condomania.com/a/blog/is-propylene-glycol-a-safe-lubricant-ingredient](https://condomania.com/a/blog/is-propylene-glycol-a-safe-lubricant-ingredient) And lastly, my opinion, on the topic of benzocaine / lidocaine lubes: They have their uses. The most common advice I see is to never use these numbing lubes, out of concern that you may injure yourself by pushing your body beyond it's limits. However, at least for anal penetration, what many of us struggle with is relaxing the sphincter. Our butts can open up further than our sphincter allows, to a point, without injury. The difficulty is learning to relax your sphincter on command. A while after application, numbing lube may help relax that backdoor as much as you could have with more experience. Just be reasonable and use your best judgement.

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Cleanest way to use a Fleshlight?

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11erzfv

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A real Fleshlight is not compatible with silicone lubricant. Water based only. Pull it out of the housing and run it under hot water. Everything inside, cum and lube runs right out. Give it a few shakes and towel dry the exterior. Let the thing air out and the next day, use it again or put it all together and close it up for storage.

You could try silicone masturbators, which tend to have a less intricate interior texture than TPE toys. The material itself is also easier to clean and dry, and less likely to have issues with mold or tearing. You could check out the [M-Elite Gript](https://www.delicto.com/collections/strokers-masturbators), [Arcwave Pow](https://www.delicto.com/collections/strokers-masturbators/products/arcwave-pow-stroker), or [Lovense Gush](https://www.delicto.com/collections/strokers-masturbators/products/lovense-gush-hands-free-masturbator). All lubricants will need to be washed off a toy after use regardless of material. Keep in mind that oil and silicone lubes can damage a TPE stroker, and silicone lubes can damage a silicone stroker.

I’ve found the best feeling I’ve gotten from flesh lights is to use my own Precum as lube Start the process and everytime you drip you put it on the toy and then just go for it It’ll be a bit dryer, but not for long. but I’ve loved it

i've never had any issues with cleaning them. my problem is waiting for the inside to dry completely after washing

Just put it on the opening, you don’t need to put it on your Johnson. Shouldn’t have any mess until your done if you do it right.

Opinion about Portable Fucking Machine - Thrusting Vibrator by You2Toys?

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11f05hz

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I dont know about this one, but i'm also interested in opinions on thrusting vib's.

While I have no personal experience with this or other similar "thrusting vibrators", I've come to understand that these products generally speaking are rather underwhelming, especially for anal. As in, if you're looking for a fucking machine, there's a very realistic chance you'll wanna save your money for something slightly bigger and, yes, more expensive.

I got one from Amazon and it is wonderful 😊 I've bought four different ones and it by far is the best. Only 40 dollars too.

UTIMI 9.8" Realistic Vibrating Dildo Thrusting Sex Toy for Women with 5 Thrusting & 7 Licking & 360°Rotation & 7 Vibration Modes for Hands-Free Clitoral Anal Stimulation,Strong Suction Cup

Using toys and cleaning up afterwards? in a shared apartment

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11an3mg

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Whenever I have the place to myself, I take full advantage. And plan ahead and know when I have free range to play. Usually just use antibacterial soap and the bathroom sink! To then let them air dry before putting them away, right before my roommate comes home.

You can clean them in the bathroom sink and carry them through the common spaces wrapped in a towel. I bought a small dish drying rack to let clean toys air dry

If you have a bedroom to yourself I find that's ideal, if a toy is loud or you have thin walls you can use it under the covers to muffle some of the noise. But if you share a bedroom and don't want to wait for the times your roommate is out, taking a toy into the shower might be your best option (only if it's waterproof, most dildos and vibrators are fine but check anything with electronics to make sure it's safe). That way you can use the water to cover noises, and have easy access to a sink to clean your toy up after (hand soap usually works fine). If you're worried about taking a long time you can wait until everyone else has showered/gone to bed to take yours.

Play music, nature sounds, or white noise to mask noise a bit but look for quite toys or wait to have the place to yourself if you're worried about that. Clean up would be more of a challenge but it should be feasible to wash things in the bathroom then put it in a bag or towel to take it back to your bed room to dry.

I just got a Hismith, today. That thing is quiet enough that ordinary music or TV could mask its operation at low and medium speeds. Put your dildos in a bag with your clothes to discreetly transport them and then wash them in the shower. Or, if your roommates are cool, maybe they aren't judgmental about that. Maybe they have the same fear as you. Maybe you can discuss your boundaries.

Dont know what toys to get. Help.

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11a9bl0

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for beginners start with a plug anal training set... make sure its silicone or metal... don't use silicone lube with silicone toys... t base plugs are safer... makes sure the base it large enough so it doesn't go missing... once you get comfortable with plugs and know your size then you can upgrade to dildos or other toys Its not a race.... its your ass

For beginners, it's recommended to try some butt plug kits, you can refer to these two kits [Eli Training Silicone Butt Plugs Set](https://www.bestvibe.com/eli-progressive-anal-training-flared-base-silicone-butt-plugs-set-3-pcs.html?utm_campaign=Reddit-comment-yc-Y25715-2023224) (0.98in -1.37in-1.77in) [Silicone Triple Set Anal Plug](https://www.bestvibe.co.uk/bestvibe-silicone-triple-set-anal-plug.html?utm_campaign=Reddit-comment-yc-Y5287-2023224) (1.18in -1.57in-1.77in) If you'd like to try some anal vibrator/ prostate massager,pls check out the​ [Double Motor anal vibrartor](https://www.bestvibe.com/9-pattern-vibration-double-motor-30-wave-motion-prostate-massager.html?utm_campaign=Reddit-comment-yc-Y2210-2023224), it is about 1'' wide, waving angle is between 0-30 degrees, which simulates a human finger exploring the body, nice for beginners. Prices may be over your budget

If you're just starting out, I think going with the basics might be a good idea. Check out this article for essential info on how to choose the right anal toy: [Beginner's Guide to Butt Plugs](https://www.delicto.com/blogs/sex-ed/beginners-guide-to-butt-plugs). I think it'll answer most of your questions! As far as lube, I like to use silicone or oil-based lubes because they feel slicker and last longer. [Pjur Analyze Me](https://www.delicto.com/collections/anal/products/pjur-analyse-me-anal-lube) is my personal fave because it's formulated specifically for anal sex, and includes jojoba to soothe and relax sphincter muscles.

Is This Safe?

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119ojpk

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I work in sex toy retail, never have I ever seen a safe metal plug with gem. The base is always the same size as the plug itself. We don't sell them anymore for a long time now. We have had customers coming back, telling us how they had lost them. And needed to see the doctor (or worse). Also friends and toy testers. And even people who work at the hospital: Pretty much everyone agrees that their design is flawed. But still, they sell like crazy at the competition. But IMO they should be illegal as a butt safe toy. There's safe plugs from Njoy: Pure Plugs or buy a silicone one with a base wider than plug.

I wouldn't buy any plug where the flared base isn't noticeably wider than the bulb part. That base looks like it's the exact same size as the bulb, basically the quintessential jewel plug design that so many people have trouble with getting sucked all the way in. I also wouldn't necessarily trust anything that doesn't even tell you what kind of metal it is. Even a lot of cheap "stainless steel" plugs are just chrome plating over mystery alloys and not real stainless steel. Edit: I didn't notice that it does say "aluminum alloy" in the description. That's still pretty vague and iffy for me.

Yes, definitely avoid anything with a small base . If this is your first time at plugs, you may want to get a training set that come in small, medium and large, before going extra large. Just remember, what's sauce for the goose, is sauce for the gander.

You want to avoid small bases (bases the same size or smaller than the widest part of the plug) and watch for anything that says alloy as most Alloys contain nickel which is not body safe for a lot of people and can cause reactions.

Hey man! I replied to your butt plug post. Where are you located? Maybe I can be of some assistance.

Does Anyone Know A Good 100% Hands-Free Male Vibrator?

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112dcdu

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One thing to try is get a couple of the rechargeable bullet vibes. They are about 5/8 Diam. by 2 1/2" long. Available at Walgreens. And then get a penis sheath that's stretchy material. I cut one into bands about 1" long. Put a band on and then slip both vibes under it so it holds them in place on opposite sides. Then set each one on a different pattern. It is a hands free solution that mimics the style of the Jett, https://www.hotoctopuss.com/sex-toys/male-sex-toys/jett-penis-original-hands-free-orgasm-penis-vibrator. Sometimes its best to experiment and modify pieces to get it to do what you want.

the [Training Masturbator](https://www.bestvibe.com/ron-2-in-1-flexible-handheld-10-vibrating-stamina-training-male-masturbator.html?utm_campaign=Reddit-comment-yc-Y25747-2023214) and the [Pulse Penis Vibrator](https://www.bestvibe.com/864-electric-pulse-vibrator-oral-sex-masturbation-cup-toys-for-man.html?utm_campaign=Reddit-comment-yc-Y8017-2023214) are close to what you're looking for. They provide constant stimulation and affordable, are nice options, they have strong vibration to your cock. You mentioned that you want to use it along with anal play, I think the [NOAH Prostate Massager](https://www.bestvibe.com/noah-10-vibrating-heating-ergonomic-prostate-massager.html?utm_campaign=Reddit-comment-yc-Y21347-2023215) is a good option, it has two large ears with dense humps will better wrap and stimulate the testicles and penis

Is it safe?

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10y7jn1

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That depends on the toy. You can’t really make a broad determination. Many toys on Amazon do tend to be rather cheap and not body safe however.

I'd avoid it if you can due to the risk of getting counterfeits on Amazon. Amazon has acknowledged it's an issue on their platform, but so widespread that they don't have a solution for it, so it just is a thing.

I've done it. I had a fake one 1 out of 8 times..

If you order reputable brand toys yes, but otherwise you should expect all kinds of non-body safe materials.

Surprise Gift?

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10wm0vl

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I'd go with a gift card to a sex toy shop or website instead, that way it's still a surprise gift but she can be involved in choosing what to get.

A vibrator can be a great addition to your sexual routine, but it's essential to discuss it with your wife before surprising her with one. Everyone has different comfort levels and boundaries, so it's always best to have an open and honest conversation to make sure you both feel comfortable and satisfied. A gift card link the user suggested below would be great. Another idea is exploring [websites](https://bunnyshoppe.com/) or shops together and seeing what might be exciting for her.

**[Monster Pub 2](https://monsterpub.ca/products/mp2-dr-whale-excited)** Offers plenty of features for both you and your wife for less than your budget. It can be used in the bedroom or worn out in public. Our products use premium safe silicone are CE certified and US Patented. It can be used with or without a smart device (iOS/Android).

Largest selection, best prices, and a retailer with integrity [SheVibe](https://shevibe.com/?rfsn=6329831.d2dfa8). They will tell you exactly what a toy is made of. You could go online shopping with her and go down all kinds of rabbit holes (pun intended).

Recommend a vibrator for my girlfriend?

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I'd recommend the zumio s

it seems like she had a kind of wand? If she's particular about the size but you want something similar in shape, i'd recommend the [Magic Wand Mini](https://adultluxe.com/collections/body-massagers-and-wands/products/magic-wand-mini-rechargeable). If you're interested in getting a vibrator that can get to all the right places and would consider a different page, I would suggest one sleek and bullet-like like the [VUSH Rose 2 Precision Bullet Vibrator](https://adultluxe.com/collections/vibrators/products/vush-rose-bullet-vibrator). Does she enjoy clit, g-spot (or both) stimulation? Do you know if she has any preference in intensity or type of stimulation? (vibration, air pulse, licking-like sensation)? Answering these might help you find something that she really likes! Kudos on looking to buy her a gift like this for Valentine's Day! She's gonna love whatever you find :) ​ *\*All product recommendations are body safe. Adultluxe.com is an independent retailer that has privacy and sustainability at its core. All products are billed and shipped 100% Discreetly with optional package protection. We never sell or share data other than required for shipping. If you choose to buy from us, you not only support a small retailer but also help offset carbon emissions generated in shipping your orders!*

"Soap" and water to clean?

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10si4c9

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Unscented soap. I use Dr Bronner’s.

Toys made of body-safe materials (the same kinds of materials typically used for kitchen items— silicone, stainless steel, borosilicate glass, etc.) can handle pretty much any regular soap. The bigger concern is whether the soap you use is going to leave any kind of residue behind, which you probably don't want to be putting inside your body. A lot of body washes and soaps made for use on the skin are designed to leave moisturizers behind, and it can sometimes take a lot of extra scrubbing to get them off the toy (and it can be hard to know if they're 100% rinsed off). My two main toy cleaning soaps are regular Dawn dish soap (which I like because it cuts through lube and body fluids really quickly, and as a dish soap it's designed to easily rinse off completely) and Dr. Bronner's castile soap (which I've found works just as well). Some people warn against Dawn because it contains methylisothiazolinone which can be a skin irritant/allergen for some people, but I'm not personally very concerned about that because, again, if it's rinsing all the way off without residue it's not actually hanging around on my toys to get inside of me. I've also never experienced any irritation on my hands when washing toys or dishes with it, but YMMV on that. People with more sensitive bodies often prefer to use fragrance free soaps. The unscented baby version of Dr. Bronner's is good for that. Regular hand soaps can work fine in a pinch, especially if they're basic non-moisturizing formulas, but they don't cut through lube and stuff as easily so it often takes some extra time and scrubbing.

I use regular blue dawn dish soap. Have used it for years with no problems.

unscented gel/soap for intimate areas works great on my toys also unscented ‘sensitive’ body wash will do if in doubts

Sometimes dish soap, sometimes hand soap, but if I know it’s going to be used vaginally and it’s been used anally, it gets a trip through the sterilize cycle on the instapot.

Why doesn't using my vibrator feel good? Is it possible my vagina is defective?

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mcd9ry

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You haven't ruined your vagina. You just haven't found the right method for you. I know women who swear by the rabbit vibrator and women who love the wands and a couple who like both. I know that's not a lot of help but as the saying goes, different strokes for different folks. Good luck with your search and when you find success, many happy orgasms.

First no no you cant ruin your vagina or your clit or vulva in that fashion..Second bullet vibes aren't very powerful so perhaps you need to go to a wand vibe like a hitachi or a domi from lovense. a doxi. Every woman's response to a toy or stimulation is unique, you'll get into the rhythm of your body and figure it out soon

Are you stressing lately? Most orgasms are mental >physical

Honestly its a method of finding what works for you and *getting used to it*, When I was younger I used to grind on things so when I got my first vibe, since it wasnt the "feel" I was used to I couldnt finish. Now since I'm used to vibes and how to use them to work for me I finish easier with vibes than grinding! Its a process

As many others have said already: You're definitely not broken, different people's anatomy just works differently. I also think it sounds like your bullet is either too strong or just a sensation your body isn't used to yet. A wand would probably be too powerful for you at this point, as they are generally speaking the most powerful vibrators, and some women - even if they have used other toys for many years, can find them pver-stimulating. However, you might enjoy the "spread out vibrations" of smaller clitoris vibrators that are for example small, round and flat so that it's not a pinpoint stimulation. It's very individual what people enjoy. If you decide to continue practicing with just your fingers, try different "methods". A rubbing motion, a circular motion, 1 or more fingers, the whole hand. I started masturbation on top of my trousers, and to this day I actually still prefer having some kind of cloth in between, if I am not using a toy. But most importantly: focus on your mental state. Try to be as relaxed as possible. And then sort of let the sensations come to you. Just register them, but maybe don't chase an orgasm to begin with. It's about not putting the pressure on yourself. And then ~ fantasise ~ ! Sexuality is incredibly mental. And getting yourself off is much, much easier if you have a sexy fantasy to emerge yourself into. It could be a scene from a movie or book that exited you or a scenario that you think would be fun to experience and then imagine that you take part in that. I have actually a few times managed to make myself orgasm purely by thought. Aka. not touching myself, but just fantasising and clenching, and I'm not the only one. Good luck in your adventure, and I hope you find some advice here that helps :)

what happens if you have to fart while wearing a butt plug???

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You can fart around a plug, just dont push the fart. Haha

Haha, probably no release valves! Although I think some plugs are hollow and could let gas through easily. For me, gas just passes around one side of the plug. Whether the plug would fall out depends on the width of the plug and stem, how hard you push, and how tight the hole is.

I (m 56)wear a buttplug (njoy medium or prostate plug) 15 - 20 hrs per day and I fart all the time no problem. It just “slips” around the T-base.

It just goes around the edges

... an artillery mortar comes to mind ... You'd put someone's eye out - I'll let myself out.

Would you ever buy your daughter a vibrator?

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Yes! Sexual frustration can lead to poor judgment (like in sexual partners or using potentially harmful household objects), so I would absolutely buy any future children of mine vibrators.

Yes. It’s a better option than trying to use other household items. I would buy it and leave it in her room. If she wanted to talk about I would leave that up to her.

Have done this. I bought it for her 15th birthday, along with a copy of Our Bodies, Our Selves.

Absolutely! I remember when I was a young teenager and I stole a vibrator because I found my mom's and was super curious. So I went out and stole it. Then I was stealing condoms. I thought my parents would be like "wtf you don't need that" or even be upset. I never got caught but it could've have went horribly wrong. I also ended up "falling in love" with the first guy that I had sex with and ended up in an abusive 7 year relationship and had a child at 16. I'm not in any way saying this was my parents fault, or that a sex toy could have changed it all. I don't regret a single thing and I love my two children more than the world. But I never got a "talk" so sex was so taboo and intrigued me so I literally just couldn't wait to finally have sex. And when I did, I never used condoms (I was scared to get them and was never asked if I needed any). If I would've asked, my dad would've have a freaking stroke! And my mom would have cried her eyes out and told me I didn't need to have sex. Sorry about the novel, but I think this is really important. If I would've had a damn vibrator, I might not have been sneaking out my window at night to go meet a guy I had no business messing with. If my parents had been more open and understanding about the situation, I could have been safer when I did have sex. By the grace of God i didn't get and STD from him either but I definitely wasn't worried about that at the time.

Grew up mormon. I would have killed for a mother like you. Never had the talk, ended up using hair brush handles to get off. Even tried a curling iron once - it pinched. Didn't understand anything until I had my own PC.

Is it worth a guy buying a vibrator for a future partner to use during sex?

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I think this is a sweet gesture but honestly I’d rather go shopping together and pick out my own stuff. If you do get one I suggest the magic wand rechargeable. It’s incredibly powerful and the head is silicone so it can be properly cleaned

I think that you need to be in a relationship before buying a toy to use on/with a partner & choose it together, most people wouldn't want to use a toy that has been used by anyone else. If you just produce a toy from the top draw then your partner is likely to conclude that it has been used with another person (possibly numerous others). This will kill the moment and probably the relationship. Tread carefully not everyone appreciates the benefit of toys, some see them as something used because their partner doesn't satisfy their needs. If they have this negative view of toys and you just produce it, it will not go well for you. Toys are something to be mutually agreed on and agree why you want to use them.

Okay, this is so incredibly sweet. You're right that not all vibrators work for all women, but in that same vein, not all sex works for all women; some women can't get off without penetration, others can't get off with oral or digital stimulation. It is such a kind thing that you want to have toys ready to enhance sex to ensure your partner has a good time. No matter what, it's going to be a crapshoot. Have a couple of different things on hand, make sure they're cleaned properly after every use, and thank you for being a conscientious partner!!

If you are talking about hookups. Id say no. If you are talking about dating someone id say no. In the first scenario who wants to use a toy they aren't sure is sterile? In the second scenario if she doesn't have one and wants one buy her one and let her keep it.

I keep female-only toys next to the bed but you better make sure you’re keeping everything clean

How common are sex toys actually

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I am also 20, I'm from Spain and here we are quite open about sex toys. Most of my friends own at least one, and we also give advice to friends who want to get their first one. Some of them were also embarrassed at first, but I always explain to them that sex toys are a VERY good way to know your body better, they are very fun alone and in couples. They are also very good to masturbate in different ways, since if you do it manually every time it can get more boring. Most of us started with a simple bullet vibrator, since it's small and not intimidating, it makes most people feel comfortable. So I recommend you getting one, they are not expensive and they can be really pleasurable. After using the bullet vibrator for a while, I bought a satisfyer and a rabbit vibrator, I recommend both toys a lot if you are planning to get something bigger. I really encourage you to get a sex toy, it can really help explore yourself and actually, they even improved my self steem. Not everyone likes toys, but I think everyone should at least give them a go. Good luck!

I looked it up, and apparently, it's a lot. [Here's](https://www.statista.com/statistics/1305973/share-of-people-who-own-sex-toys-in-the-us) a statistic on sex toy owners in the US by age group, and [here's](https://www.statista.com/statistics/1305978/share-of-people-who-own-sex-toys-in-the-us-by-gender/) one by gender. On average, about 80% of US Americans own at least one sex toy. [Other countries](https://www.vouchercloud.com/resources/sex-toy-world-rankings) are similarly enthusiastic about sex toys - unsurprisingly, Scandinavia dominates the list, followed by the US, the rest of Europe, and Australia. Due to a variety of factors, sex toys are less common in the Global South, but the numbers are still pretty damn high. TL;DR: Everyone's super horny, goddamn!

I’ve gone toy shopping with several different friend groups. Men, women, doesn’t matter. Some friends want to wander the shop together talking about pros and cons of different toy styles, some friends head off on their own and meet up before checking out. I know that every single one of my close friends owns multiple toys. (I’ve also stumbled across my mom’s toy years ago which further solidifies my thought that everyone has one)

Every single friend I have owns toys. To be fair most of my friends are sex positive bisexual furries so that's a given.

Almost every gender has at least one toy. Some people will admit to it while others won’t, even people you’d never suspect probably have a toy or two. I’m (33/m) and have several different toys from mild to wild. I’m here for a good time not a long time so give me all the toys! What toy are you planning to buy?

Is it weird to leave sextoys in my bathroom?

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ijgygw

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I’d say it’s a little off putting. I don’t think it’s a secret that most people masturbate and/or use sex toys. That said, that also doesn’t mean I would necessarily like to walk into my friend’s bathroom and see a fleshlight that my friend’s dick cums in or a butt plug that he puts in his ass sitting there. It’s not the biggest of deals, but I wouldn’t leave mine or my girlfriend’s sex toys just laying around in plain sight for friends or family to see.

If it's just you and your partner and your partner is ok with it than it's probably not an issue. But leaving them out for others to see no matter how sexually open or progressive they are can be off putting. You are essentially shoving your sexuality in your guests faces whether they want it or not.

I get where you’re coming from, but I’m siding with your partner on this one. I think the majority of people would be uncomfortable with seeing toys in your bathroom. Heck, I have friends I’m comfortable occasionally talking to about toys (not in a sexual way, more like an “I ordered a new toy today! Hope it lives up to the reviews!” kind of way lol), but if they happened to see my toys in my bathroom or vice versa, it would make me very uncomfortable. Not because I think using toys is shameful, I just think using them is a private thing to do solo or with your sexual partner(s), so just stumbling across them is just kind of awkward.

I will say this: if you were the only person in the apartment/home, it wouldn’t matter because it’s your home. But your partner has made it clear that *they* don’t want the toys out when guests are home, so regardless, to be polite they should be stored. That being said, I am a very chill, open person when it comes to sex. If I went over to a friends house and their sex toys were all over the bathroom I would probably just make a joke about it and keep moving, but that’s because of my personality. just because your friends know that you masturbate, because everyone masturbates, does not mean they need a visual reminder of it. If you have them sitting in the bathtub and there’s a shower curtain hiding them, that’s one thing. But if they are just dangling from the walls in the bathroom that guests use, that’s a bit extreme. Think of it this way: everyone fucks, but you wouldn’t leave a bunch of used condoms everywhere.

In my experience, most people are not as open about sex as you say you are. So for most people, I'd say having sex toys 'on display', so to speak, is unusual, definitely has the potential to be suggestive. But that doesn't take into account the aspect of who you are, etc. If I was in a stranger's house, or visiting a new friend for the first time, I'd probably think they left it out by mistake. If they were quite flirty with me, I might think it was a hint. A more prudish person than I would likely respond differently. IMO, it's not that big of a deal, especially if you are willing and very explicit /open about discussing sex with friends/ guests.

Did I overuse my vibrator?

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qkqks5

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No i don’t think it’s damaged. Maybe you got used to it. Maybe you just need different stimulation to help yourself. Clit is a super sensitive organ, it’s probably not damaged but it could be “tired”, as if it was sore from all this work out. Get some rest, you should be good 😊 but keep an eye on things. You know your body, if you feel like something is really off maybe see a doctor (in the most drastic scenario uncoils think of)

Hey guys! I am the OP, I made a new account because I wanted to change my username and forgot to post it on my new account instead. I am seeing your comments and I really appreciate your input!

You did not damage any nerves! I cannot stress this enough. Your body has temporarily developed tolerance to this kind of stimulation. Give it a couple of days rest, you will come back to your usual state. You do not need to see a doctor.

I’ll agree with the other comments, seems like your clit just got desensitized. Give it a break and it should go back to normal. Once that happens, try not to burn it out.

No worries, nothing permanent, it'll be alright again soon :) With any kind of sex or masturbation, it's always a good idea to regularly change how you do it! It keeps you from becoming dependent on one way to do it. Too intense forms of stimulation can make you feel somewhat "desensitized" for a while, so it's especially important to take breaks off of those. Vibrators have been accused a lot of desensitizing the genitals, it's become an urban legend that they could actually do permanent damage, which thankfully isn't true. Be patient and try different things! The less stressed out you feel about it, the easier it'll be. Have fun :)

Hiding sex toys from parents who like to clean very thoroughly?

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nbyxwc

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Buy a cheap locking box and put it in your closet. If they really want to know what’s inside they can embarrass themselves by breaking it open.

Locking camera case perhaps? Also, that "thorough cleaning" is really about control. Been there done that, got the T-Shirt

Shoe box. Label in big black letters "PERSONAL SEX TOYS, PRIVATE" Put it under your bed.

An old computer case that you put them inside of. Most people don't work on their own computers or think about opening one up to find some random item.

Go searching around the house for their sex toys. Power play!

Can anybody convince me that owning sex toys is normal?

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camnxo

Consider the fact that it's a multi-billion dollar industry and there are numerous stores selling them in almost every city in the country. Someone must be buying them. EDIT: Hell, there are SIXTY THOUSAND people just on this little subreddit. That's just one little corner of one website.

Statistically, we know that [over 50% of women in the United States own or have used a vibrator](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19453881). And that study was from ten years ago - I'd be shocked if the percentage isn't even higher in 2019. (And the numbers in many other countries are probably similar.)

It’s a lot more normal to own sex toys than you think it’s just people keep it private out of fear of being judged,

In my tiny little conservative town (like our entire COUNTY only just this year had a pride festival, and of course the religious sign-holders showed up lol), the adult store that I work at does GREAT business. We have customers who are young adults, old people, couples, singles, throuples, parents (they don't bring their young kids in lol but they do exist), church ladies, teachers, politicians... Just about EVERYBODY you know probably owns sex toys, or has at some point in their lives. Just about EVERYBODY has sex (why do you think Catholics, who are some of the most outspoken anti-sex and sex toy advocates, have SO MANY children??), just about EVERYBODY is a sexual being, and the only real exceptions are people who identify as asexual, demisexual, or another similar identity. America has this weird attitude toward sex and anything related, in part because our country was founded by Puritans, who A) believe all kind of restrictive shit about sexuality and B) literally left their country because no one there was willing to let them live their lives, they were fed up with being told their religion was wrong. So they came to the New World and ... founded a culture where THEY got to be the ones telling everyone else "ha ha, you're wrong." 🙄 Rude as hell, but that's the basis of it, and it's why a lot of people here were raised to be prude -- because their parents were raised that way, by *their* parents who were raised that way, by THEIR parents who were raised that way, by **THEIR** parents who were... But despite the outward prudeness, all of us still have biological instincts and sex drives; you can't just rip a fundamental evolutionary feature out of a species like that. [Benjamin Franklin liked sexing older women, and wrote about it to his friend](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Advice_to_a_Friend_on_Choosing_a_Mistress). [Poet James Joyce had what appears to be a fart fetish](http://mentalfloss.com/article/74934/13-nsfw-lines-james-joyces-incredibly-dirty-love-letters). There are tons of these examples throughout history; we're just not taught about them in school because of that Puritanicalist culture that prevents some students from even being taught how to use a condom! Can you imagine your Health class teacher putting these articles up on slides in front of the whole class? There'd be such outrage... but honestly, for **no good reason**, just the typical "tradition." You are PERFECTLY normal my dear. Sex and sex toys are also PERFECTLY normal. You have absolutely nothing to worry about. ❤️

is sex normal? yes, yes it is, or we would have gone extinct by now is (a woman) ENJOYING sex normal? ... despite what some idiots say, yes, that's how it's supposed to be. do toys make sex more enjoyable? ... they should, else what's the point. ​ then... what exactly is the problem about sex toys? ​ all that said. if you are not into sex toys, that's fine, and your bf shouldn't pressure yo into using them. in sex, you either give full, enthusiastic consent, or.... something is very, very wrong with it.

Vibrators I can hide in plain sight??

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ynfhvm

First Toy

Get a metal cabinet with key lock, IKEA has one.

Love Crave [Vesper](https://www.lovecrave.com/products/vesper/)

Just buy the toys you really want and keep them in a small lockbox or safe. Tell the parents you store important documents in there. Or you could replace your bedroom doorknob with one that locks and keep them out of your private space completely.

Also the daughter of somewhat nosey immigrant parents. One tip I found useful for smaller toys is to keep them with menstrual products. For example, I have one in a half empty package of pads where there are pads surrounding the toy so you cant see it from the outside. Unless your mother is pre-menopause, she has zero reason to look there. And no dad is going to go through that. However if they were to pick up the package it might be suspiciously heavy. If you have an electric toothbrush, you can buy a head that is meant as a toy. On its own, they are just colorful things that dont vibrate but are meant to turn your electric toothbrush into a vibrator. If you get one that looks normal its likely the person who finds it wont be able to tell what it is.

Flash drive https://www.lovehoney.com.au/sex-toys/vibrators/clitoral-vibrators/p/lovehoney-flash-7-function-rechargeable-clitoral-vibrator/a26627g41358.html?p=26627&utm_source=CommissionFactory&utm_medium=Affiliate&utm_content=beanstalkmums.com.au&utm_campaign=59558&sv1=cf&svc=59558&cfclick=0a3090b8f9374a299e8b14247e5c197d

The equivalent of a vibrator for people with penises?

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kciwba

Discussion

The Fun Factory Manta is the best product, in my opinion. However, you say he doesn't like vibrations so check out the Hot Octopuss Pulse series (I have the pulse solo). It's a bit of a different sensation than a standard vibrator so it might be a good bet. There's also a new air pulsation toy out there, the ArcWave Ion...but I haven't tried it myself yet Edit: fix typos

So the vibrations from a bullet and the vibrations from the manta feel very different. So if he's only tried bullet vibrations he may want to give [The Manta](https://buzzloveshop.com/products/manta?variant=30289349476451&utm_source=Reddit&utm_medium=Post&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=Review) a try. Although it is one of the more expensive toys out there :( its pure medical grade silicone, because of the ridges it keeps lube on it pretty well, rechargeable, waterproof and can be used both as a stroker or just straight vibration. As for cockrings - I'd recommend either the [Nu Sensuelle range](https://buzzloveshop.com/search?type=product&q=nu+sensuele+ring&utm_source=Reddit&utm_medium=post&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=review) of cock rings or the [mio](https://buzzloveshop.com/products/je-joue-mio-ring-black?_pos=1&_sid=9a918bf32&_ss=r&variant=30323187548259&utm_source=Reddit&utm_medium=post&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=review). If he's like something a little stronger (in terms of vibrations). In terms of sleeves my partner prefers the Tenga brand over fleshlight, like the [Flip Zero](https://buzzloveshop.com/products/tenga-flip-zero-black?variant=30403929342051&utm_source=Reddit&utm_medium=Post&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=Review) because you can adjust the pressure yourself by just giving a gentle (or firm) squeeze. It's also far easier to clean since you can pop it open in half, give it a good wash, let it fully dry and to extend the life of the unit and give it a light dusting of cornstarch. There is a more economical tenga product as well the [flex rocky,](https://buzzloveshop.com/products/tenga-flex-rocky-black?utm_source=Reddit&utm_medium=Post&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=Review) it doesn't open in half but you can still adjust the pressure by giving it a little twist. Even more economical [is the spinner](https://buzzloveshop.com/collections/masturbation-sleeves-1/products/tenga-spinner-01-tetra-blue?variant=30416328786019&utm_source=Reddit&utm_medium=Post&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=Review). If you wish to be able to receive oral sex while using the sleeve then have a look at the [Zolo Series](https://buzzloveshop.com/search?q=zolo&type=product&utm_campaign=reddit&utm_content=ladybombus&utm_medium=review&utm_source=Reddit&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys) If you prefer a sleeve then I'd look at a silicone option like the OptiMALE [Beaded](https://buzzloveshop.com/products/optimale-truskyn-sili-stroker-beaded-blk?_pos=1&_sid=57df6b074&_ss=r&utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=post&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=review) or [Ribbed](https://buzzloveshop.com/products/optimale-truskyn-sili-stroker-ribbed-blu?_pos=1&_sid=9d36b3ae7&_ss=r&utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=post&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&utm_campaign=review) or the [Yoni Stroker](https://buzzloveshop.com/products/firefly-yoni-stroker-blue?utm_campaign=review&utm_medium=post&utm_source=reddit&utm_term=r%2Fsextoys&variant=32607922159715).

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Don't know if that helps since its a personal preference but a wand works wonders for me. I use lelo smart wand.

What do you regret buying?

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rop0sp

Discussion

My first vibrator, it was made of some sort of cheap hard plastic and I spent a long time figuring that if that did nothing for me there was no reason to drop serious money on a quality silicone toy. (Everyone usually goes on and on about vibrators but it does nothing for me as it turns out.)

Nipple clamps. Not getting anything out of them yet. Still willing to give them a go. So far however, not worth the money.

My rabbit vibe😅 the little rabbit ears for my clit do nothing for me and while internal vibrations are okay it also does nothing for me. I want a classic wand vibe, i feel like I could have a lot of fun with that

Bought an air pulse rabbit toy and it's just awful. Individually the dildo part and the air pulse bit are fine, but they didn't work together well for me and I literally never touch it. Ended up buying a vibrating dildo and air pulse toys separately and use them often =)

A glass dildo. I always reach for my silicone dildo instead because the glass one feels so weighty and not real and I can't ride it. I don't have enough patience for learning it, except loving how cold it is. While, on the silicone one, even the tip feels so real and good. I never tried the anal side though (it's double sided), so maybe I'll really enjoy that. It's so beautiful regardless.

How do I get a toy past your parents.

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chtjl8

First Toy

I’d rather you not get a toy past my parents, thank you very much.

So when I first started buying toys I'd either order another item along with it that was SFW, or if it was a toy only site I'd buy something SFW from a brick and mortar store and hide it until after the package came to make it look like that's what was shipped. It was super goofy and annoying, but it worked. It wasn't until I was selling a few BD toys to cover unexpected expenses that I ended up discussing the toys with my mom... who didn't really care I had them. She was impressed by how well hidden I had them but I was "past 18 and could buy whatever I wanted with my money as long as it's legal." I don't know your parents personally, but if you feel there's an iota of a chance that they may understand or be accepting of your toys, I'd recommend discussing it. Of course, don't just throw a toy at their head.

buy other random junk and get periodic packages so they don't expect anything when you start telling them about the junk you are ordering (ie: toiletries, DVDs, or whatever). Or, just get the mail regularly. Its not too difficult to pull this off, its not like you are breaking the law.

Good question!, when I was 16 I had a interest in a glass butt plug and I ordered one on amazon and my dad opened the package. When I came home from school he said I got a package that he opened by accident and said to be careful with that thing and never said a word about it again. After that plug I ordered a few larger ones. He just left the package on the table for me and never opened them again

Can you get it delivered to post office or something like that? If you want it home delivered and your parents sees it and they ask something, just say that is something for yourself. Or a gift. If they ask more, say it's a sex toys. Probly won't ask after that.

Would it be inappropriate for me (M tto buy a vibrator for a friend (F)?

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okhtgm

Discussion

it seems a bit off to me that she's never talked about this with you before and then disclosed that her husband doesn't pay attention to her. it sounds to me like it may have been a vague proposition or she's just flat out unhappy in her relationship. the husband comment is concerning and, as a friend, I encourage you to push that rather than buying her a toy.

I'm a toy nerd. Talking about toys is not inherently sexual for me, so I'm happy to chat to pretty much anyone about toys. I have however had to realize that for many people, talking about toys is something you only do with someone you are sexually interested in. Buying a toy as a gift for someone is almost always interpreted as an invitation (if we are both of the appropriate orientation). You can offer her suggestions for websites, or direct her here, but under no circumstances should you be allowing anything that hints you are interested in what she does with the toy and you absolutely should not be paying for it.

In an ideal world, it would be no problem whatsoever. You sound like a considerate friend. In reality, given the prevalence of severe sexual hang ups and weird jealousy about opposite sex friendships, it may not go over so well.

Maybe I'm wrong, but friend or not, you probably shouldn't be buying a sex toy for a married woman, even if there's no attraction between you two.

Don't do it bro. Get with one of her female friends and you all talk with her about it or something. Would be less dangerous in a group conversation. If some rando bought my wife a sex toy I would be suspicious. Also, if you give it to her and she is ashamed of it and hides it, what's that going to look like when it's eventually found and it comes to light that the guy she used to fuck and still talks to and was her man of honor bought it for her. Not a good look.

Should the FDA Regulate Sex Toys?

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d0nopq

Discussion

I mean the obvious loophole is that most companies would still produce things under the ‘novelty use only’ umbrella and avoid FDA regulations that way. I’m also going to agree with you that introducing FDA regulation would give more power to the larger companies like Doc Johnson and CalEx. They’re the ones with the money to lobby for the regulations. Doc Johnson I can see being especially successful in the current government as they have the made in America standpoint, and can argue that switching to body safe materials would cost American workers their jobs. I’d be curious if FDA regulations would stem the availability of white label and unbranded toys on Ali Express and Amazon that often make fraudulent claims about material. Would there be some sort of inspections to keep these from being sold? Overall I think it’s not going to happen soon. Sex toys still can’t be sold in a couple different states. Plus like I’m not a big fan of giving the government control of my genitals right now because they’re doing a great job currently 😒

I think people should vote with their wallets on this issue. FDA would ruin the industry IMO.

FDA no FTC should seriously be going after companies that falsly advertise what their toys are made of though

IMO any government body that controls and regulates anything can possibly be subjected to lobbyism by large corporations, so I wouldn't inherently trust something that was "FDA approved" over something that wasn't. Lots of FDA approved things contain harmful material...

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Is it normal to take longer and longer to get aroused?

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w19aqg

Discussion

Yeah I am a proud long time wanker, when I first discovered my dick I was pulling it 4-7 times a day, I'd have to swap hands it would take so long

I think that's normal for any type of sexual activity, sex toy or not. If you do the exact same thing over and over, you naturally get used to it / tired of it. Just switch it up and the excitement returns.

Arousal is all in the mind.

I think answer will vary, but if you want to speed things up, maybe change your mindset. Find something new that turns you on.

Hormones matter too. It’s almost impossible for me to get there the week before my period

How do you get over feeling inadequate for your partner?

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x07e63

Discussion

Don't take this the wrong way - but it's not about you! In the journey to "get good" at sex, toys and a sense of experimentation go a long way towards getting over any feelings of inadequacy because you're not focusing on you. Sex feels great and we all have a tendency to get wrapped up in our own feelings, and that's usually for the best because ultimately sex is a selfish desire. Embrace that though! Make making it about her about you. Pay attention to her. Watch her face and how she moves. How she sounds, what catches her breath, when catching her breath may mean to hold back and when it means don't stop. The size of the toy is only ever about you when you make it about you. Don't compare yourself to a toy, it's a tool. Some people like the sense of fullness, and not many human penises will give them what they seek when they're in the mood for that. I know men and women who love being stretched, but even though they want something 2 inches wide they also enjoy the friction of a lover. Just because she wants to play with big doesn't mean you'll be replaced. Sometimes it's about expanding and going further and with trying to hit more spots at once - and if you are willing to do that, that's all that matters. One last thing - you hear more complaints about partners who give up after they get theirs than you hear about partners with "inadequate" size. You can be the size of a thumb, that's fine. Just once you get off, don't roll over or go make food. Make sure she gets hers however she needs it and you get ready for round 2.

I mean here’s the way I think of it. My girlfriend and I each have our own toys. Some of hers are things I can’t even hope to reach. But also I have my own toys that are very similar. That doesn’t mean the sex isn’t great. We just have different needs that need to be fulfilled by different stuff. If anything I would say her getting a toy is much better than her suggesting an open relationship!

Something like 85% of women can't have orgasms solely from penetrative intercourse. They need clitoral or g-spot stimulation, sometimes to a degree that can't be reasonably provided by hands or oral. The penis didn't evolve to give women orgasms. Nature doesn't care if a woman has an orgasm, it only cares about ease of reproduction. The fact that your penis can't give her an orgasm on its own means you are part of the vast majority of people. It's just not how our bodies work. Many women still enjoy having sex even if they need to do something different to actually orgasm. It's extremely common. My spouse uses a magic wand to get off after sex. Trying to get her to orgasm with just your penis is like trying to cut down a tree with your bare hands. Just use a saw. There are better tools for the job.

She's a bit insensitive about it, but you can't take it personal. That new toy is just another tool to keep your wife happy. Use it on her. After she has a few hard orgasms, you will find she is more sensitive for you. She will be a little swollen. It's team work, not competition.

You don’t make love with just your penis …. There is all different ways to make love. Enjoy it. If you have a problem with watching her use it .. then get you a penis extension… that way you feel like you’re the one doin the work … theyre great to use and still feels good to you. Good luck.

Buying remote control vibrator as a gift for my girlfriend who has never used any sex toy?

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onj11l

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I have a few thoughts! First, for some people receiving a sex toy as a gift can feel like pressure, but for others it helps take the pressure off them since they don't have to choose the toy themselves. You know your partner better than us strangers online, but I'd probably at least discuss with her one more time and ask her if she thinks she'd enjoy receiving a sex toy as a gift and if she'd prefer for you to choose it. As for the [Lush 3](https://pleasurebetter.com/recommends/lovense-lush-3/), that toy will actually *only* give G-spot stimulation. It doesn't really stimulate the clit. Since most women need clit stimulation to orgasm, if you decide on a wearable toy - I'd recommend starting with the [Lovense Ferri](https://pleasurebetter.com/recommends/lovense-ferri/) first over the [Lush 3](https://pleasurebetter.com/recommends/lovense-lush-3/) since you say she prefers emphasis on clit stimulation. The [Ferri](https://pleasurebetter.com/recommends/lovense-ferri/) is basically the equivalent of the Lush for people who need clit stimulation to orgasm - that's me personally, and the [Ferri](https://pleasurebetter.com/recommends/lovense-ferri/) is my personal favorite wearable toy. If you're okay forgoing the *wearable* aspect, I'd probably start with a more versatile vibrator first that she can use to explore what she enjoys in a vibrator before trying out the public play / wearable aspect of toys. The [Lovense Ambi](https://pleasurebetter.com/recommends/lovense-ambi/) is still app controlled so you could control it remotely, but she would hold it and be able to maneuver it around her vulva to apply broad or pinpoint stimulation to different locations. It'd help her explore a bit more while still having the remote control aspect. And she’d be able to use it on her clit during partnered sex. Also if you do want more info on the wearable toys, I have a: * [Lovense Ferri review](https://pleasurebetter.com/lovense-ferri-review/) here * [Lovense Lush 3 review](https://pleasurebetter.com/lovense-lush-3-review/) here * [Best Vibrating Panties](https://pleasurebetter.com/best-vibrating-panties/) guide here which all focus on clit stimulation But again, for a first toy, I'd lean more toward a non-wearable vibe that she could maneuver and experiment with more easily.

The [Lush 3](https://www.happybed.com/shop/lovense-lush-3/) is an internal g-spot vibrator that is designed to be worn inside the vagina. That said, it's not uncommon for owners to use it externally by holding it on the clit. Many mistake the long thin tail as something that will simultaneously vibrate the clit at the same time as the g-spot but it's really just an antennae for the bluetooth connection. From the same company, Lovense makes a [Ferri](https://www.happybed.com/shop/lovense-ferri/) that is designed for external stimulation. It is held in place by a magnet on her panties and, like the Lush, is remote controlled through the same app. The magnet is super strong and supports wearing it while out and about. If this is her first toy, I might consider the [Lovense Domi 2](https://www.happybed.com/shop/lovense-domi-2/) \- it's a wand that, while remote controlled, will give her some control to explore and place it exactly where she wants. It's also a considerably stronger vibration than you would get with the Ferri. Since she doesn't own any sex toys and vibrators are very personal gifts, I'd also suggest browsing some of these options with her to incorporate her input. While your intentions are positive, I have seen too many people and posts in this sub where this exchange has gone unexpectedly sideways.

if you want something that does clit and g spot stimulation, the we vibe chorus is pretty good. It can also be used together at the same time

I would actually buy something small that won't be intimidating. Have that discussion with her and ask what she would be into. It's possible that buying something she's not ready for can cause an issue. Try the discussion first before deciding what to buy.

> The Lush 3 looks really good based on reviews and the shape looks like it would stimulate her the way she likes (clitoris and g spot at the same time with focus on the clit) The Lush really doesn't offer clit stimulation. I think it's a strong wearable vibe with great app control, but it's not guaranteed to fit any anatomy. Mine's always wanting to wiggle down and sit at the mouth of my vagina when I walk with it in, rather than offering G-spot stimulation. If she said she wanted to try a remote control vibe, that's great, lead with reminding her of how you both thought that was sexy when you give it to her as a gift. If she likes clit focused stimuation, I'd recommend [the Lovense](https://www.lovense.com/r/97bs9j) Ferri first, since it is a clitoral vibrator. I talk about how I enjoyed [using that one here](https://phallophilereviews.com/lovense-ferri-review-super-charged-panty-vibe/).

Thoughts on the stigma attached to Male sex toys?

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c2c32p

Discussion

I think it can change, but i also feel like its not really about sex toys for men. Its about the optimal man being able to get as much sex as he wants when he wants it. Its what sex toys supposedly say about a guy. A least from my perspective, a lot of the broader cultural imagination around toys for men portrays absurd/uncanny-valley type replicas of female body parts, like blow-up dolls or various kinds of sex mannequins. These are imagined to be ridiculous, creepy, expensive, and seedy—all things that reflect poorly on the guy that has them. Why can’t he get real sex? There’s something wrong with him that he’s had to resort to spending money on toys instead of dates. That or being so desperate that household objects become “toys” to get fucked. This also carries a huge stigma of immaturity and absurdity; like a teen boy that has never had sex but wants it badly, so he goes to the vacuum cleaner for a simulated blowjob. It’s also huge that for men, your hand is/should be all you need. I guess this is a bad consequence of the way male masturbation is much more “out there”/ accepted. If you want something better or different, you’re being excessive or greedy or you’re obsessed. So i think there’s a lot of imagined desperation and ineptitude surrounding why a guy would want or need a toy. That being said, there’s obviously no excuse for her behavior. Yikes on that one. Enjoy your toy(s) freely.

That was a really shitty thing for her to do.

I think it also has to do with the ways we culturally view men and sex. A man who has a lot of sex with different women is celebrated, whereas a woman doing so generally isn't. Therefore it's acceptable, even encouraged for a woman to have a sex toy if it reduces her sexual interactions and protects her reputation. For a man, it has the opposite effect on reputation as his actually benefits from the number of sexual interactions. Obviously, this is wrong and shows a ridiculous understanding of the relationship between partnered sex and masturbation. It's also an example of how patriarchy and gender roles hurt men too.

I think you have to step back a bit to see the larger picture, at least from a westerner's perspective. ​ * Men are celebrated for conquests and being a stud. Getting sex is practically the definition of being a man. * Women are celebrated (by society at large until very recently) for being chaste and pure. ​ * Men commit the vast majority of sex crimes and uncomfortable sexual situations. * Women are usually the victims in the situations above. ​ These and a multitude of other scenarios can lead to some stereotype perceptions: ​ * A woman with a sex toy is a woman taking charge of her body and giving it the care and service it needs. This can also be painted as "because men don't always get the job done". * A man with a sex toy is a closet pervert and should go out and get a proper woman. ​ * "Going easy" on a girl is societal norm. So if you find her dildo, the most common reaction is probably to say nothing.. * "Giving a guy a hard time" is also the societal norm. Finding any reason to embarrass or rag on a guy is an opportunity you take. ​ In reality, if more men had quality sex toys and they were stigma free, I suspect we'd have less of the above mentioned poor behaviors. There's definitely a change in the air in regards to this. progress is slow but it does happen. Over in the Fleshlight subreddit, it's the most amazing, supportive, helpful, kind place I've found on the Internet. A whole collection of guys helping each other find the right toys, openly discussing penis sizes and variations and what works for different types. I've yet to see a negative comment, rather every request for information is met with helpful advice, suggestions and cheering when someone finds the right toy.

How does one stumble across a sex toy when returning from the bathroom? Sounds like someone was doing some snooping, or your bud just left it out...

Should I bring up sex toys to my family?

SexToys

ri5l0i

Discussion

Its literally none of their business. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Being honest doesn’t mean being unfiltered. Individuation will serve you as you develop your adult sexuality - you are allowed and, in fact, supposed to have interests that your parents know nothing about. That doesn’t mean you’re keeping things from them- developing that boundary is really important, especially as you share a roof.

Why on earth would you discuss this with your parents? Just order from a place that has discreet packaging.

It's none of their business. So if they *do* find it, they should ignore it anyway. And if they are the kind of person to bring it up if they find it - why have the conversation when you might never have to? It's not lying or being dishonest to not tell them everything about your life. You probably don't describe your poop to them in detail, tell them every single dream or thought you have, etc. Privacy is totally not just something you should allow yourself, but some things should be private because the other people don't want to know about them either. Do you want them to tell you if *they* own toys or what porn they watch or how their sex life is going?

Just… don’t tell them????? 99% of places use discreet packaging when shipping. And if they somehow did find it, unless your parents are dumb religious, they’re not gonna question it. They’re gonna want to forget they saw it. Forever. And never question it.

Hubs gifted me my 1st vibrator. Is it better for me to use it by myself when alone, or something to use when we’re having sex?

SexToys

g0702x

First Toy

Both! I enjoy toys by myself and with my partner. Just give it a try, you might really enjoy it.

So to answer your main question, if you are inexperienced with toys, I recommend using it alone first. It’s easier to play around and see what works for you with out another person. My fiancé has bought me a lot of toys over the years and generally (there are a few exceptions) it feels less sexy and more like a science experiment trying out brand new toys together. This especially applies to new *types* of toys. Once you’ve tried it alone (if you like it) use it together. Also, it sounds like penetration is not what you get off on so if this toy is a vibrating dildo, it may not do much for you. If this is the case, don’t let it turn you off of sex toys all together. Try it, if you don’t like it, I recommend looking at some clit-focused toys to start with.

Both

Both !!!!

Both and

female masturbating everyday?

masturbation

11hmngu

It’s fine. I find it helps me calm down before bed. I use up all this energy then afterwards my head is more calm and I’m just able to sleep better.

I average 2 a day and sometimes more on the weekends. If you dont feel its a problem that's holding you back in someway then don't stress. Enjoy it! Theres nothing wrong with having a higher libido

I think it's normal. I do it almost daily as well.

I usually do it at least once a day after work or before bed it relieves stress what can i say 😅

Totally normal. I make sure my pussy gets a daily workout too x

What helps you get off?

masturbation

11hhg14

Seeing a cock ejaculate a huge amount of cum😝

Same here. There something about talking to someone who’s doing the same thing that’s exciting

Recently gotten into chatting to people while edging. Super fun!

Yeah definitely talking and sharing pics and experience with another guy.

Yeah, chatting on here while stroking and sharing porn is great. It's a real turn on to know what other people are masturbating to.

doing something wrong?

masturbation

11hdmac

Relax don't focus on finishing focus on what feels good

Deep breathing, enjoying the sensation.

Normal to prefer Sex toys?

masturbation

11h3b5g

Sex toys over what? Actual sex with a partner or just using fingers on yourself?

outdoor masturbation?

masturbation

11g82k6

I've been masturbating outside since I was a teenager. At first I thought it was perverse but came to realise I'm not doing it to flash or be seen. It just feels amazing to cum outside. A slight risk factor, ok, but I tend to only do it when I'm pretty sure I'm not going to get caught. Although I do have fantasies of being caught by a willing participant.

I just love it. Finding somewhere secluded, strip off and jerk while feeling the sun and wind flow over the body. Or Even do it while swimming in a lake

Totally. Tent and fireside sessions while camping in NorCal have been some of my favorites. Can relate to what you’re saying about feeling the breeze. Once I literally came because of the sensation of the wind on my body. Memorable lol.

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Being outdoors makes me so horny. I once went for a hike and got overwhelmed with horniness that I ended up grinding on a log just off the path. Wish I knew somewhere to do that again.

How many have masturbated together with a sibling?

masturbation

11h09o8

I have a sister and it never crossed my mind

Next level weird

Sure when we were kids before we knew it was masturbating. As an adult my sister and I had drunk sex with our guys in the same room and high fived during lol.

My brother and I would watch porn together and jerkoff. I had 2 stepsister, (dad got re-married) one would give me blowjobs and the other would let me slide my dick between her ass cheeks. All at separate times of course. They both did like to watch me jerkoff. My mom got re-married and my step dad had 2 daughters, I only messed around with one sister. We did a lot of dry humping. But when we got older, in our 20's, just her and I went on vacation. One day we were on the beach, she was wearing this black bikini. She had a real nice tan going and she was all oiled up laying in the sun while I was in the ocean. I couldn't stop staring at her body, especially her legs and she had huge breast (YES THEY WERE REAL). We went back to our room and she was filling up the jacuzzi tub because she wanted to relax before we went out for the night. She was in her bikini still while getting in the tub which was built into the ground in the room we were staying. I was going to go in also. She went around the far side of the tub and squatted down. The way the lighting was in the room and the suntan oil still on her skin made her legs shine so good. Not to mention her legs were so sexy and I have a very big fetish for the squatting leg position and how the knees and thighs look when squatting. She got in the tub and asked me if I was coming in. Of course now she noticed that I had a major hard on and asked me if i was alright. I got in the tub and told her what I saw and now why I am excited. She asked to see my dick so I took off my bathing suit and showed her. She took off her bikini top amd showed me her breast. OMG they were incredible. But the best was when we got out of the tub. She squatted down in front of the couch in the room and started rubbing her pussy amd she asked me to jerk off for her. She watched me and I watched her, the sight of her squatting legs made me cum so hard. She was cumming at the same time. We had a lot of fun the rest of our vacation masturbating with each other but we never had sex because we were both in dating relationships back home. To this day we never speak of what we did although every once in a while we give each other a smile knowing we had that between us. Oh man to be back in my late teens and early 20's again.

Dose step sister count ?

Places to masturbate outside the house?

masturbation

11frsdv

Does anyone masturbate together

masturbation

11fg7v8

Do you want to do it online?

Iwebcam.com is the best one I found so far. It's not fake it's just real people doing this for fun mostly. You don't have to stream or pay to enjoy the always 500 users connected. If you want to take it more personal, definitely try this web app I found yesterday. ProjectEros.app It's a random 1-1 video chat with gentler filter and it's free. The girls were really hot too

I like the idea haha

Sounds hot, i'd love to do this

What Do You Think About Drinking one liter to flush Urine Before masturbation?

masturbation

11f2n1r

i sometimes drink water before doing it but not for that reason (or any reason at all lol)

Never tried it

Will test it tonight

Masturbate together?

masturbation

11e555x

Yea

Yes please

Yes.

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Showering soon, any tips?

masturbation

11ddhid

I recommend getting the detachable shower head thingy and aiming it at ya naughty bits, afab or amab, it's amazing feeling.

If you have a spray bottle, fill it with water. After you strip, get into the shower, change from the mist setting to the fine spray. Aim at a nipple, pump as hard and fast as you can, then, when it gets too intense, switch to the other nipple and repeat.

Let me join you so we can have fun

Use the shower head

I wanna watch

Roulette anyone?

masturbation

11cg2aj

I'm on there sometimes. Can't get on now, though. My wife is at home :-) Can you type interests without registering an account?

I go on all the time

Confused

Best places to masturbate on cam?

masturbation

11c175g

Flingster/DirtyRoulette

Bateworld.com has video chat. There’s always guys on there stroking.

Bate bud? Are you M or F?

Yes

Newbienudes is where I go to cam

Have you ever masturbated outside?

masturbation

11bv9bt

On my front porch at night when I'm high and horny 🖖

I jerked off at night in the forest. The advantage: no one to disturb me I could come without embarrassment

Dozens of time. Out in nature, hiking, camping. The wife finishes me right off a hiking trail.

Absolutely. It feels great when the fresh air hits, and you can just let the cum fly anywhere. Invigorating.

Did behind a large rock at beach back home in Spain . Was 15 years ago. I was so horny as I hadn’t had wank in ages .. I was quick!, the head rush was intense . Did it in forest as teen witu mate

Masturbating to... masturbation?

masturbation

119uwhm

Yeah. We come here to talk about masturbation to get more horny and start masturbating. Its a horny-circle lol.

I love stroking my cock reading posts here. Doing it right now, absolutely desperate to cum but am gonna tease myself a bit and enjoy the journey first. Love reading about others who are wanking at the same time

It’s so hot isn’t it

I'm usually rock hard by the time I'm done scrolling though this sub reddit.

I love reading about other men masturbating, and I get so hard chatting with another man as we both masturbate and encourage each other. It's so beautiful.

how do you like to masturbate

masturbation

119i68p

In bed, lubed up to the max, porn on porn on porn and just edging session.

I can only do it when I'm in bed and have either a pillow or bed to hump and occasionally rub my dick to get it going. I have attempted to do it faceup or in a chair but it just doesn't happen

At a local porn theater. I strip down, lube up my cock and slowly stroke.precum leaking only adding to my already slippery cock.

I also love putting on a condom and letting my precum build up over an hour of watching porn while moving it up and down to spread it around so by the time I'm ready to cum my cock is already soaked in my own precum. Rarely if I'm like really really horny I'll keep jerking off with my own cum and then cum a second time but it gets really messy so I don't do it often

Love in the bathroom with my lube and my special hot masturbation videos. Girls masturbating and guys masturbating then I cum so fast like in 4 minutes

Does anyone else use a vibrator while they do other things?

masturbation

118u7sy

Today I went for a walk around my neighbourhood with a vibrating cock ring on the head of my dick. Fucking awesome!

I (M) sometimes have my little wand buzzing at my balls and perineum while I'm sitting at my desk doing work or writing, usually while I'm naked but honestly, I'm almost constantly masturbating anyway while doing other things, cooking, watching TV, reddit, playing games, one hand is almost always gently stroking my cock.

Use mine whilst working from home and on the occasional zoom meeting if im super horny

pls allow me a question how do you hold it in your pussy, when you do something, where you don´t sit?do you have a special panty for that or an extra tiny vibrator? btw sometimes I have a vibrating cockring, but it´s more annoying than satisfaction. greetings

Cool:)

Need to ejaculate after peeing?

masturbation

118gc05

First time I gave head he came then accidentally started pissing in my mouth immediately after. I didn’t know what to do so just had to keep swallowing haha! We was in a tent and his brother was asleep next to us so couldn’t let it go everywhere haha 😂

Is one of the was I masturbate weird?

masturbation

117mg7t

Seems normal

I have always masturbated with my thumb on top and 2 fingers on the bottom. So I guess whatever works best for you isn't wierd in my opinion.

Sounds cool. I’ll try it

Question: Have I reached my tolerance?

masturbation

1178gx9

If I was in your situation, with the information you just shared with us right now, I would absolutely recommend taking a break. Your hand getting tired makes me think you’re probably squeezing really tightly and that’s definitely a potential issue. If you were to masturbate without pornography, would you be successful? Able to get erect? Able to cum? If there’s a question, you should try it as an experiment. And if you are not successful, then definitely recommend taking a break.

Sometimes you have to give yourself a break from masturbating and porn. Even a couple of days can help.

Honestly I've found that recently I'm able to last a couple days due to a new job which takes a lot of free time from me. At the end of the day I am just tired. Maybe a hobby or something would help. Anytime you feel like doing it, try to have the discipline to do 50 push-ups before the event. That way you are either less likely to do it, or you get better at push-ups lol. After a couple days I'm surprised at how the urge isn't really there though. Get to day 4 or 5 and I have to do it though lol

You should stop doing it you'll feel better too after a long time, I know it might be hard as I've tried stopping too but if you slowly start doing it less, putting some limits and working will help a lot, I went from masturbating 2 times a day to 1 then to once in two days and slowly like that, each time I broke some limit I did some job, or something else useful just so if I don't do a good thing by masturbating I do a good thing by doing a good deed. Not getting hard to porn is normal if you watch it a lot, slowly but surely you will get attracted to certain kinks, scenes, types. That will go away if you stop watching for a long time.

I stroke about 2-3 times a day like McConaughey on Wolf of Wall Street. Sometimes it feels great sometimes it’s not as great but I’ve learned how to make it feel good every single time.

To shave or not shave?

masturbation

115ty9v

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I feel you on the barrier part, though after a few days I tend to get used to having nothing-to-little there. Personally, shaven makes me feel better in every way possible, whilst also being a hell of a lot more convenient in cleaning up, like you said.

Shaved....feels great especially when you go commando !!!

I love to rock my man bush,But that's just me

All natural did the shaving thing yrs ago. The upkeep was a pain. I'll stay hairy 😋

What should i try

masturbation

115li1x

Your moms mouth.

I have some ideas. Do you like shooting standing up?

How can i get wet dreams?

masturbation

1156ffm

try to go to sleep while horny tbh, and on your stomach

When I'm laying down about to fall asleep, if I imagine a scenario with as much detail as I can as I'm drifting off to sleep, I can sometimes trigger a wet dream. You can increase your chances if you don't orgasm for a few days.

Edging and denial for a handful of days. And masturbate before bed. Works like a charm lol

Go to sleep after a looooong edging session, but don’t let yourself cum…

What about if your m (I’m m and have never had one)

Wet dreams worth the effort?

masturbation

1159zeh

Wet dreams are a waste. Enjoy yourself!

Masturbation feels much better. Don't waste time waiting for something that is not even worth it. 99% of cumshots in young men come from masturbation.

How do you masturbate?

masturbation

1128ixk

I always start completely naked, caressing my body and sliding oil over my chest and cock, with three different screens showing lesbian porn, and then I'm off to the races. Sometimes I'll use a flashlight but I love the feel of my oily hands more.

I like to be naked I like lube on my cock my ass my nipples I love stroking and showing other people and looking at sexy pics of real girls clothed or naked If I’m really horny and home alone I will put on stockings and panties before going to town on myself till I’m covered in cum

Recently I've been getting off with some online jerkbuds. We talk dirty and then masturbate on camera for each other.

Well, normally, Just with my hand, I do however own some toys as well, that come in handy when the mood sets in

Recently fleshlight gives me a lot of joy, but hand still remains the favourite.

masturbation relieves my back pain and anxiety and fatigue?

masturbation

111wl0x

It's good medicine

It's both for me. It's soothing and relaxing to the point that busy days will sometimes have the best bates. I also do it when I have a bag headache; doesn't cure it but I feel a little better and sometimes can take a nap. Masturbation is wonderful!

What do you fantasize about while masturbating?

masturbation

1108ugr

I love the thought of edging with others 🤤😩 leading a group in a long edging session, teaching others to enjoy their bodies, meditating through masturbation, massaging your brain through your cocks and clits, enjoying the pleasure and building the orgasmic energy 🥵

As a truck driver I approve

When I don't use porn for a quick one-off, my usual go to fantasies are of hooking up with a long time friend of my wife and I (knew her before I met the wife and just recently found that if I hadn't been as shy back then I'd have had a shot at her)....sometimes of having a sexy stranger coming on to me....and have had my share of fantasies about getting to watch a couple getting it on with each other.

My aunt. The ability to have a fwb in the family. Keeping a secret relationship also

I a(m) fantasizing either about using a dildo or someone riding me as cowgirl. But most times I'm browsing Reddit.

Anyone else wish it was seen as ok to masturbate with friends?

masturbation

10zam5q

I wish I could've had these kinds of experiences. It would be so nice if masturbation was a more open thing and if we could just gather round and have fun together. Losing the fear of getting caught and replacing it with a casual greeting and maybe even an invite to join.

Did this loads with friends and male cousins as a kid/teen unfortunately most straight guys grow out of this stage but a few haven’t and still enjoy a tug with a mate now and then hehe 😉

And why is it considered normal and ok for women to masturbate together but socially unacceptable for guys? Personally I am a straight guy and find it extra exciting to just be natural and normal and comfortable jerking off with the right person and just playing naked without any drama or anxiety that usually interferes;

I would love to watch a porno like this

It use to be a communal event until puritanism took off, men use to line up together to jack off into the nile river in egypt lol

Anybody masturbate to your friend's girlfriends or wives pics on social media?

masturbation

10zdg94

I jerk off to my friend's partners, I don't see it as being messed up. I'd never go there but the fantasy is hot.

Neighbors wives all the time

Usually exchange pics and do it with a buddy

Friends’ and neighbors’ wives

Yah my neighbors wife.

Anyone else call into work just to masturbate all day?

masturbation

10ywjhj

I have yes And I also spend a lot of my work day stroking aswell either in van or on jobs when nobody can. See me

Currently doing that now. No work and free

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I had a single dorm in college, which is a bators dream. Amd I skipped many a class and lectures to bate 12 hours a day. Bad idea for school, but damn my days felt good!

Yes! I love spending all day humping my wand 😻 When I have to be stuck at work, I love syntribating any time I get

Does anyone else take Adderall?

masturbation

10z3lne

No haven't tried it but it's interesting to know

I take something a little stronger than adderall, it’s in the vyvanse family and it keeps me focused all day, but at night it’s just an untamable beast. Edging stretches on for way too long and all of a sudden I’m 6 hours in and I haven’t slept

I hadn't noticed, but I stay horny, so there's that. I have noticed an impact on the production and subsequent availability of the dosage I am prescribed. Pharmacy told me today that it may be March before mine is back in stock. I called around, same answer. Anyone else?

Are you able to orgasm on Adderall? I have no personal experience, but I have a nephew who took it for a while when he was 15 (ADHD diagnosis that turned out not to be the problem). He said he enjoyed the extra focus, but the trade-off was that it made him insatiably horny but it took him 3 times as long to cum, if he could at all. He went from being able to jerk to completion twice a day to maybe twice a week. (Yes, he told me.)

Adderall makes me so fucking horny every time I take it

Any religious people masturbate knowing it’s wrong?

masturbation

10uzltl

yes of course. to be honest, knowing it's sort of taboo turns me on even more

I was taught it was wrong and sinful, yet I masturbated anyway. I just loved this too much and often simply could not resist.

I'm no longer religious, but even when I was, I thought it being a sin was a stretch. Onan is used as an example, but he didn't even masturbate. He directly disobeyed an order to create a child and pulled out. (Still weird looking back, but whatever. Not masturbation.) And as far as lusting, you don't even have to lust to get off. What if you're just laying back and enjoying the sensation? Plus, I think it's pretty clear that our bodies are meant to work this way. Ever tried to tickle yourself? Doesn't really work. But masturbation does! Because it's a natural thing we're meant to do.

Not religious, but i think religious stances on sexuality are very interest. I also kind of find it erotic to hear about religious people who still live out their sexuality the way they see fit. To make you feel better according to a study i read about lately 92% of men in America masturbate. Even if you assume that all atheists masturbate (around 30%), that would mean that the majority of christians in America masturbate too. If i may ask you somethibg personal: do you consider yourself christian? Do you thinn masturbation is a sin? Do you try to stop masturbating or will you keep doing it even if you think its a sin?

Yes, I can’t not masturbate. I think I would die.

Watching porn

masturbation

10utvn6

I usually start by browsing Reddit pics and gradually get worked up. Then I move over to PornHub because I like finishing off to videos.

I watch the picks of the day. Then move on to sister brother father daughter stuff

I usually stick to porn games for long edging sessions (3+ hours).

Thick compilations of big cock trans ladies releasing makes me hard as fuck.

i watch a mix of cam girls and japanese porn on my laptop and japanese porn on the tv

How do you feel about masturbating in front of pets?

masturbation

10uv2uu

not have pets.

When I was a kid, I’d jerk my dog off then myself. LOL I was dumb. 😂

I don't have any pets, but if I did, I could never do it in front of them. I'd just feel awkward.

i felt awkward.

you get over it and keep going :)

Does masturbating count as cheating?

masturbation

10uqoa2

No.

Absolutely not. It's your body and you're aloud to enjoy it. If a partner tries to control your body (without your consent, it's a kink for some and that's fine), then that's an unhealthy relationship. Period.

ABSOLUTELY NOT. If you have a guy telling you it is cheating, he’s a control freak. Cut the cord with him immediately.

If so, I've cheated on my wife for 23 yrs, every single day, multiple times most days.

Unless you do it to someone else it’s ok

masturbate everyday?

masturbation

10tnijq

IIRC for males, ejaculating at least 20 times a month reduces the probability of suffering prostate ills by 40% For me personally, I just sleeps much better if I masturbate before going to bed

Im masturbating 4-6 times a day. Not something im planing to do, im just horny all the time, thanks to my fictional crush/es.

It just feels good. Plain and simple.

I think it's more if a personal thing. I masturbate about 3 times a day, but I usually do edging sessions. It's helped greatly with controlling my orgasm and lasting longer with a partner. A down side is your loads won't be as thick, depending if you like that sort of thing. Just be conscious if you're watching porn. Depending on the person, it can really create unrealistic expectations from sex. I can't really say my life is better if I masturbate more, but the two benefits you mentioned on top of orgasm controls, I can't say it's incredibly beneficial for you. You want get more gratification is you masturbate more frequently. I feel like over three it becomes more of a chore, but that's just me.

I think the cons outweigh the pros in terms of side effects ultimately. I think it reduces my motivation, drive, and focus. I personally usually do 5+ times a week, every day that I take a shower for sure :-) It can consume your time if you don't moderate your usage. If you really want to do it every day I suggest setting a timer and making sure to finish or stop when it's over. Basically treat the 'dopamine wiring in your brain' as a muscle that you exercise on a regular basis by specifically not doing the thing you want to most.

What can I do to remove the guilt after I’m done masturbating?

masturbation

10u6ajb

Just realize that the pleasure of masturbation would not be possible if it were not an integral design criteria of the human body. Think of the fun, the pleasure and the endorphins and forget about all of the main made control rules. Just do it and enjoy it. Then do it again.

Why guilty . We all do it baby xxx

Do you enjoy watching other people masturbate?

masturbation

zlva93

Yes I absolutely do! And like you, I'll sometimes watch solo porn with just people masturbating. I also love being watched. Sometimes when I'm masturbating I'll imagine that someone is watching me and it makes me cum faster and harder.

Love it. I even like the idea that people are masturbating. Just think, there are thousands of people right on the edge at this exact moment. I want to know all the dirty kinks they're thinking about.

Love it. M or f don’t care

I have sawn some men masturbating. I found his movements when they cum very intersting. Once I was fucking with a man in a forest and I saw 3 or 4 men around us, looking us fucking and all then masturbating.

I love watching men on cam stroke n cum, wishing I was in person doing this with a group of throbbing cocks cumming 🍆💦💦💦💦👅

Conversation during masturbation?

masturbation

j7gf2v

Intelectual Masturbation - I LOVE IT ! I must be more intelligent than I originally thought...

I have to say... this sounds very interesting for me!

Dude thats hilarious. Just "Yeah new synapses usually are created during puberty and AhhHHHh the brain really matures during that time." Not trying to make fun or anything though!

Women here and intellectual wanking is a think nothing turns me on more than a heated debate on a sofa with a glass of wine i want to drop to my knees of do lude things, so i understand the turn on.

Oh yeah, this is big brain time. Ive heard that if 2 lovers are too tired to fuck they can masturbate together casually and its really intimate and cute. Never done it, im going by word of mouth.

(F) Is it normal to want to masturbate with friends?

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m76gdq

I think it is normal to have thoughts like that sometimes.

No i want to do that too.

I have with my bestfriend we ended up making love

I like that idea too, but can’t find anyone either!

What is normal really? I see a lot of posts about masturbation with friends. It seems to be quite a popular desire among many who frequent our beloved NSFW subs

Masturbating with friends?

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pf6kv1

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The closest I've ever come to this was in college. A bunch of guys getting together in a room to watch porn that we rented. It didn't get that far, but there is no way we weren't thinking of masturbating. I think if someone initiated it, others may have joined in. Now had this happened, I think it may have been weird for us moving forward. Where I'm at now in life, I don't think I could masturbate in the same room with someone and have it not lead to some sort of sexual interaction together.

I’ve always wanted to too but never have.

Yes we are on the same wave length, watching other guys all stroking together is an amazing turn on. I used to have a few friends who came over for sessions. We did kiss and fondle as well but watching & comparing is what I like!! Uncut is what gets me going, foreskin sliding back and fore! Two of my friends were straight but loved to watch as we all stroked!

When I was an adolescent my best friend and I used to masturbate together. He was way more developed than me and it began with him just showing me that he could ejaculate, which I wasn't able to yet. Over time it became a regular activity. As this was a very unhappy time of my life with my parents going through a bitter divorce, and I occasionally considered suicide, our sessions became my only pleasure at that time. One time, we were on the floor in his room, leaning against his bed, beating off with one hand while our free arms were around each others' shoulders. He came first, then I, catching a whiff of his underarms, squirted out my clear little load. As we were coming down from our orgasms, he pulled me closer and murmured "I love you buddy. You know that?" I think my friend may have actually saved my life.

How often do you get completely naked when you masturbate?

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y9v2ly

I just pull my shorts down and whip it out 🤭

I can't do that because I live in my parents house, and I have no privacy at all. So, I have to take my shorts and panties off and use a blanket to cover myself... I wish I could have some privacy to get naked. someday...

No I don’t usually bother to get naked. I just pull my underwear down and go at it. I did find an interesting effect of this though - normally I keep the band of my underwear just under my balls and I found that I actually like that stimulation while I masturbate and I actually prefer to have the underwear on while I masturbate now.

i struggle at home as rarely get an empty house. However i get to go places with work and stay over. As soon as i reach my hotel room I strip and spend the whole evening nude and wanking.

Generally I'm fully naked when masturbating if I'm trying to orgasm. Although, if I'm just messing around at my desk or somewhere else, then I might have clothing on.

Does anyone actually jerk off with their friends?

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wu3j1v

Used to when I was younger but I guess we grew out of it. I’d do it again though

It's probably more common during puberty, but it seems to be less common among adults. Not sure why, maybe because you're more willing to experiment when you're still figuring out your sexuality. I had a couple of experiences with friends when I was younger, first when I was 12, second when I was 14. It was fun, but it wasn't a regular thing. Another time I was 15 and went to an overnight birthday party at a friend's house. His parents went to bed and one of the guys had brought a porn VHS tape, and we all (6 guys) sat around watching it and trying to hide our boners and teasing each other about jerking off which we weirdly denied ever doing. Sometimes I wish I'd had the confidence to go first, probably would've kicked off a circle jerk that would've been a fun experience. Nothing happened that time. I'd probably be open to it now but it's a difficult thing to bring up. As a middle aged man I don't have a lot of close friends so the idea of potentially screwing up a friendship keeps me from asking.

When I was younger (pre 19), various friends and I talked about wanting to try it someday but only did it once with a friend. So I’d say it’s not an uncommon interest, but not everyone is comfortable actually doing it. Think it depends on the friendship and there needs to be a lot of trust.

I used do to that and sometimes i still do that with my best friend and another friend but now it's very rare. (I'm a male and they are both female). Everything started when we were all 14 years old (here in Italy it's the legal age of consent). While chatting on social media my best friend one day asked me how to masturbate a male, I told her how to do that, then I asked her "do you want to try?" Without any sexual desire, I just wanted to be sure she understood what I told her. She said yes and then the next morning I went to her house and the "lesson" started, she was unsecure at first then she gained confidence and even managed to make me cum. We passed all that day together all alone and naked "trying" mutual masturbation techniques, bj's, cunnilingus, fingering, etc. We didn't ended up having sex but we were really really close since we started to stimulate our genitals by rubbing them. From then me and my best friend sometimes masturbate together, usually watching porn or just discussing about our sexual desires or sexual experiences. With my other friend instead, all started just because I told her that I masturbated with my best friend and she just said she wanted to do the same because "sound cool and hot" (she had a crush on me at the time), she invited me to her house just for that, we managed to do it but then we managed to have sex, and even nowadays sometimes when we hang out we masturbate together and sometimes we also have sex. Hope my long experience won't bore you

I have several times with friend when we were younger. One time three of us had a circle jerk, and about halfway through one of us suggested we try jerking each other off. So, we all took turns jerking each other off until we all came.

Is it normal to masturbate with a partner but not have sex?

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vnnpl0

That’s normal. It’s called mutual masterbation.

Completely normal, and even very useful coz you're teaching each other what you like. I wish more couples did that

Being sex partners is about so much more than, and not limited to or requiring, actual PIV fucking. It’s simply sharing and experiencing your capacities for pleasure in whatever ways you like. And I think masturbating together is one of the hottest things in the world. You get to visually take in your partner’s experience and responses, which, in turn, inspire and excite your own.

I’m in my mid 20s and, for various reasons, for most of my last serious relationship this was our primary way of “having sex.” It’s definitely normal and can be very fulfilling!

Yes, I’ve had a few guys rub their cocks to me while I finger myself. It’s normal

Does anyone else just stay in bed on their day off

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y6ks2m

Send the wife on errands for half a day, pop a coupla gummies, put on a pair of panties, edge for a bit, on cam, blow a load, then do it again! So relaxing!

I have taken days off just to be naked and enjoy myself

Im currently spending my day mostly like you're describing: chilling in my bed, no bra for the entire day, with frequent masturbation I love having days like these once or twice a week, it keeps me so relaxed

yes, sleep naked and cuddle with my naked anime waifus and have tissues handy cuz i don't like to stain my pillows lol cheers!

All the time, “self care” days are the best days!

Mutual Masturbation!?!?!

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x2lwji

I found a sub for it and I'm enjoying it. I had a 4 hr session today online.

I absolutely love mutual masturbation. There’s something so intimate about it I feel. Especially if you’re new to sex and don’t really want to do it straight away - which is fine. This is like foreplay for people, it’s pleasuring yourself whilst giving someone the satisfaction of watching. I love it.

I'm a man. And it's been difficult finding opposite gender playmates. I've done it a few times with other men. Depending on the horniness level, it can be pretty exciting. But it's always exciting with a woman. Lol

I was literally just searching for a mutual masturbation sub and was sorely disappointed. I’ve had a longtime gf who couldn’t comprehend why I wanted to do that occasionally with her instead of sex. And online with other guys is fun via text and sharing fantasies but the audio call is harder to not feel weird about afterwards. Have you had that experience? EDIT: I’m no longer sorely disappointed. I discovered https://www.reddit.com/r/JackAndJill/

I enjoy mutual masturbation for sure. It's all about finding the right one that meshes with you. I've never jerked off to the same sex. Not against it, just never interested me. Always looking for a partner, that's easy to talk with, enjoys my kinks and is up for whatever.

Is normal to masturbate a lot?

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jzf7vs

define a lot. daily 2x daily? 4x? it happens... are you purposely staying home to get off? then that could be a problem. libido goes up and down.

Maybe depends on your libido but i’ve been doing it a lot recently. I did it five times today

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Define a lot for you. I'm a chronic masturbator and for me 5 times a day is my normal. Is it keeping you from family and friends and having a social life?

Everyone is different. And everyday can be different. Unless you're doing damage, it's okay. I wanked 4 times yesterday and I'm in my 50s.

Stress relief??

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jq95e2

This is the point where you need to be very conscious of the psychology of escapism. Your masturbating may begin to prevent you from addressing life's inevitable stresses entirely. That's not to say you shouldn't masturbate, only that coping with stress using this method can sometimes spiral out of control.

Me. Super struggling with this. I spent yesterday masturbating and sleeping off and on all day. I try to stop, I have strong urges, I'm soaking through my panties or sheets wet. I have to masturbate to get going, to de-stress from work, etc. I come home and its not 5 minutes before my panties are off and I'm relieving myself. I've had to reach out to a therapist.

I don't really do it for stress relief, I do it for horniness relief

My daily numbers while deployed overseas were astronomical lol

Absolutely. I choose the right porn, relax, and stroke my cock until I release all the pentup anxiety.

How often do you masturbate.

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10d9eez

65 married, cute 60 year old wife. I usually eat her pussy daily. But I do jerk to completion sometimes once or twice in the morning and edge every night for 3 or 3 hours. Wife and I have been together 32 years, retired and live in a nice house in the mountains of British Columbia.

43f. Masturbate multiple times a day

Almost everyday, sometimes multiple times a day when I’m alone

28f and I do it daily, often multiple times a day. I see it as self care. Even when my bf comes over for the weekend, I make sure we both get a daily mutual masturbation session in.

71 (M) 4-5 times a day. It just feels SO good!

Ever masturbated with other guys?

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n1zu3h

I used to do this in my teenage years, back when being gay, straight, or bi (or whatever) didn't really mean much to me... it was just something we did for fun. It all started when a friend came over to my house to hang out. We were sat in my bedroom for nearly the whole afternoon before he decided to start watching porn... on my laptop... in the same room as me... We watched quite a few videos together before the guy reached into his jeans to touch his dick. By the time the next video started, he had his cock out and was full-on jerking it... so I simply copied him, and about 10mins later we both blew our loads together... that was my only experience with him though. Me and my (at the time) best friend, however... well, that's a whole other story...

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I'm bi but this happened when I thought I was totally straight. I'd taught myself how to masturbate in seventh grade by humping my bed naked and I continued to masturbate that way just about every night until this one night the following summer, I was staying over at my friend's house (he was a year younger than me). I don't even remember how it started but we ended up getting naked in his bed, I think because he said it would feel better. After getting each other horny by talking about hot girls we knew, he started jacking off. I then flipped over on my stomach & started humping the bed and he looks over at me & is like "Dude, what the fuck are you doing? I told him I was masturbating, & so he showed me how to do it properly. So we jacked off together, cumming at about the same time. We didn't touch each other, but for some reason I kept feeling compelled to rub my bare feet on his bare feet. He didn't seem to care. That happened every time we got the chance, then about a year later, it was summer 2002 and he was spending the night again, we were naked and masturbating in bed when he suddenly took things to another level but that's another story...

I have a few times when with straight friends back when I thought I was straight (I realized a few years later that I’m bi). It was really fun. We started just watching porn together but eventually got turned on enough to overcome the awkwardness and jerk ourselves.

Straight girl here who did it with several others

Do you enjoy being horny or do you just want to cum?

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p0gk3c

I love being horny. I also love the anticipation of knowing when I am going to masturbate. Right now for example, I am laying by the pool naked with a new cock ring on edging. I can’t wait to cum!

I'm always horny whether I cum or not. I do like having a hard on as long as possible without touching it because when I do it's all over. Lol

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I just want to cum. I hate being horny because I get violent & emotional when I want it but cant have it at that moment (husband works at night)

I love that point during masturbation where I'm at my peak of arousal, just as I'm about to build to the burst.

Masturbating to yourself?

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fw9da2

ive done that sometimes, im a guy and i have a mirror on the floor ive used a couple times and, if i keep my face out of frame, i think its pretty fun. ive always had a fantasy of mutual masturbation with my clone or something

ive done it standing in front of a mirror. it was interesting...my legs started shaking

I’m a guy and I feel the same way. I enjoy masturbating in the mirror or even filming myself sometimes

I’m male and call me weird I don’t care but I do the same thing

I video myself all the time. It turns me on watching after i cum and will sometimes get me hard and cum again. With just stroking or toy play

Depression makes me horny?

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uzotrf

You are absolutely correct, it is a coping mechanism. Your brain knows orgasms give you happy hormones, so it uses arousal as a way to get them. Same thing happens when we are stressed - brain will make our body horny, so it can use orgasm as a stress relief.

I have depression and can confirm. Masturbation is one of the few fun things that i can do to distract myself.

Same thing happens with me

I definitely turn to more frequent masturbation when feeling down. The mood boost from feel-good hormones play a big part as they can serve as a sort of temporary escape from negative feelings. In addition, anti-depression meds can make it more difficult to orgasm. This could create a feedback loop where you need more intensity and more time spent masturbating in order to get an effective release and feel satisfied

It's not sexual, btw. It's something we are able to do already in the womb. That's why child masturbation is completely normal. It's purely physiological, a reflex.

Anyone else shave for masturbatory reasons?

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nzaydf

I trim pubic hairs so not completely bald and I shave the hair off my shaft. Sometimes shave balls too but that's the extent of it.

Yeah i shave for that reason and other reasons too. I think makes me hold it better and if ever i want to ejaculate on myself its easier to clean up. I also don’t like touching my dick hair while jerking off

100%. I love the way I feel shaved. Everything is so much softer and more sensitive.

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It's not the only reason I shave, but it is definitely one of the primary reasons. I like the way it feels and I like the way it looks. But it also makes clean up so much easier because I don't normally use so-called "cum rags". When I cum I just let it go where it goes. I don't know if you've ever tried to clean a bunch of jizz out of pubic hair but I am telling you now, it's a cast iron bitch. So much easier when you're hair-free. I'm planning on getting permanent hair removal in the near future and I am really looking forward to it. 100% completely bald down there. I'm talking shaft, balls, taint, asshole, the whole nine yards. I'm so happy that it has finally reached a point where it's not viewed as unusual for a guy to totally shave their pubes. It's been becoming the norm for females for quite a while now(which don't get me wrong, I think that's great, I don't like pubic hair period, on girls, guys, myself, whomever)but now us penis owners can get in on the action.

Is it weird that I love the idea of watching Naughty Anime and things with a friend?

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l6rxd1

its pretty cool is what it sounds like. wish i still had a friend like that

Nothing is weird.

Enjoy what you enjoy. Labels are silly.

Are you down for that online too?

I do not find it weird myself.

Is it normal that I'm (M18) always feeling horny and I always want to masturbate ?

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nszebt

It's totally normal. Just enjoy the feelings whenever and wherever you can. And if you want to do it several times within one day, it's also totally fine. Do you usually cum very fast or can you hold it for a while until you can't wait any second longer?

YES! Jack that cock, dude.

You're at your sexual peak. Yep pretty normal to be horny all the time and wanting to relieve it. No shame. Have fun. ✊✊✊🍆💦💦

It's normal i jerk 5+ times a day

Not sure if it’s normal but I do the same thing pretty much.

Are you masturbating out of boredom?

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k45io4

sometimes I get too horny that I can't sleep,so I need to jerk off to calm myself & get a sounds sleep.

I only masturbate to relieve the horniness

More when I'm high, but maybe I get high because I'm bored, so maybe

Now that I work from home I’m finding that I masturbate just as much to make random boners go away as when I’m horny just because I can.

I masturbate because I love it. Feels so good. 🤪

Is it ok for a 23 yr old male to masturbate once or twice a day??

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zp1kvn

As long as it’s not interfering with how you want to live your life or hurting n E one else, my vote is wank away

I'm 30m and masturbate twice a day even on days i have sex. You're 👍

Nothing wrong with it. I’m 46 and masturbate twice a day, sex or no sex. In my 20s it was 3-4 times a day. As long as it doesn’t consume your life and start taking over important things you should be doing. Plus, it’s healthy, especially as you get older. Not regularly cleaning out the pipes can add to prostate issues as you get older. Don’t listen to that no fap stuff. Fap away. It’s one of life’s great pleasures!

Only you decide that bro. But let me ask you the following: Does masturbating still feel good, so that you look forward to it? Do you have issues getting your penis erect and stay that way? Do the orgasms still feel nice? Do you have any personal problems because of the time you spend wanking? Do you feel any pain "down there"? If you can answer all of this with the positive answer, and i assume thats the case, than everything is fine. You are a young man. Its totally natural to feel the need to masturbate a lot. Nofap is very questionable. At the hand of the day its a question of faith and experience if they are rigth. And I think they are not. If you want to masturbate, then please do that. Dont ruin the fun. Thats exactly what they want.

Are you serious? I'm about the same age and I can barely NOT masturbate 2 or 3 times a day

Do girls need to clean up after masturbating like guys do?

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jhhp68

i cant speak for all girls but i do! Im a squirter so i usually keep a towel on my bed so i dont get everything wet.

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No, mostly the panties take care of it and there's no need to clean, but sometimes when you get too wet it gets kinda uncomfortable due to the extra lubes so I just either wipe it up or just spray some water on my crotch to clean it up

It depends on how big the O is and how much I cum. Some times a paper towel (prefer to tp because of lint...) but most times I'll use baby wipes after. Then shower later.

Yes I always have to take a shower. I feel yucky and wet it’s so annoying

Question for male roommates?

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yrwl8t

he may just be thinking that while you are jerking off he'll have some privacy to jerk off himself

its normal. its the same as saying you're hungry and gonna grab some food and he says "me too". you bringing it up makes him want to do it.

Sounds like a great system. When I had a roommate we both knew about each other's vibrators, but we wouldn't announce it to each other like you two

*You* are announcing to your roommate that you’re going to masturbate, and you’re asking it *he* might be bi. Maybe start by analyzing that.

I don't find it that weird. He just might be taking advantage of some alone time while you're busy too. How does it make you feel when he goes to jerk off when you do? Does that bother you? Also, is there a reason why you announce you're going to jerk off to your roommate? He might interpret that in different ways. If I had to guess, I would say you're just trying to feel him out. What if he asked if he could join you? Would you do it? I'd say you're both probably straight though. There's plenty of straight guys who have jerked off together and sometimes more. Being young and horny will make you want to experiment with a lot of things.

Is it normal to be this horny??? (F)

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I didn't realize that type of masturbation had a name.

I’ve (M) been burdened with an insatiable sex drive since puberty. Masturbation is no better than scratching an itch. It’s like putting a temporary bandage on a profusely bleeding wound. I’ve learned to live with the constant horniness. Let’s face it. There’s many other worse conditions to have. I wish there was support groups for people in our condition. There probably are some. They just call them swingers groups. ☺️

It feels great, its free and it doesn't make you fat. So what are you waiting for?

we're so lucky to have this and I'm proud of you girl anywhere anytime just don't overdo it

Does your family discuss masturbation?

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z4o2jp

My family never talked about sex, let alone masturbation. The idea of a family casually talking about masturbation together still seems alien to me. But I'm hoping to be a bit more open with my kids when I have some.

Not at all, not even much about sex. Sure there might have been a few dirty jokes tossed around here or there, but my parents and my family never talked about that stuff at all. Like sure my mom didn't freak out when she found my fleshlight that my best friend gave me when I was living with my parents.

I live with my fiancé and her teenage daughters from a previous marriage. Masturbation is discussed fairly openly.

My boys are 15, 14, and 12, and we're a sex-positive family. Everybody knows that everybody else masturbates (mom included), so it gets mentioned occasionally, and we like to joke about it and tease each other. It's treated as no big deal, just a fact of life. I've had many more serious conversations about it with each of my boys, and sometimes together, as they've had questions. It might be questions like asking the rest of us what techniques we use or how often we do it, or asking if something is normal or not. Or it might be something like one of the boys complaining that his brother keeps bothering him when he's trying to masturbate. Doesn't really happen with extended family present although they have preteen and teenage cousins (boys and girls) and it might come up when they're around.

Yeah we’re sex positive in my family and have discussed masturbation with the kids. Daughter ordered her toys on our credit card at a young age, so we’ve discussed the dos and don’ts

Masturbating with someone?

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hd9rzr

My wife and I are into porn a lot and we have close friends who are into it as well. We often host masturbation parties and chill in the basement while watching porn, drinking wine, eating snacks, etc. We cover the couch with large towels and play together. We usually have a sleep-over. It's a lot of fun if everyone is comfortable with nudity and sex.

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It's risky, I'll just put it that way. That's why usually things like that happen between either really good friends or partners. You have to be able to guess if they're going to be interested or not. Otherwise you just risk making things awkward between you and whoever you bring it up to. If I were you, I would pick someone that I knew fairly well that seemed open minded and start out with some casual conversation and slowly hint at the subject. If they seem uncomfortable with the subject, then you back off and try someone else. But on the other hand, if they start to open up and seem comfortable with it, then maybe you can try bringing it up to them. That's just my two cents.

Good luck and hope it’s fun. Maybe try posting something online (depending on age) or you can maybe jokingly bring it up and if it seems like the other person is down, you can turn to convo serious. Just some thoughts. I started with a person (long story) but have taken it online in the last two decades. All the best.

Ur age? If you are 18+ yea thats cool idea lol..

Is it normal to get off rather talking to someone than watching random porn?

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iwyjz8

I used to jerk off wheil talking to my crush on the phone and he had no idea I was doing it. I have heard of some straight guys doing it to random girls they liked. Idk if its "normal" or not, but I know it does happen.

this is where all of my masturbation has moved over the years: having actual, real, intimate conversations with others (who know what's going on!) and masturbating to interaction. I might still look at visuals at the same time, but just porn itself is fake, boring, and lacks the human element.

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What about 0nlyf4n$?

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Watching others masturbate?

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106gr1w

Almost nothing is hotter than two horny individuals mutually masturbating to each other, sharing their lust as one

Totally enjoy watching and be watched. Doing it with my wife, and when we or I brave enough do it online too.

I think someone masturbating is extremely beautiful so I love watching it

I love watching other masturbate!! I also getting off on just hearing people having sex or masturbating.

There should be masturbation clubs as apposed to swingers clubs.